February 22- I'm Back

To all my readers, I do apologize for being M.I.A. for so long. A lot has gone done since I last wrote. I will start with Tiff, Austin's birth mother, coming to pick Austin up from me.
After a week of not hearing from her and being rushed off the phone every time I called, I began to worry. What worried me the most was when I heard that she was letting her future husband pretty much raise Austin instead of her including spanking him when he needed to be. I of course had objected to this and went to get him. I had to make sure I did it correctly, so I had an officer from her parish escort me there to make sure there was no domestic violence from her or me. I wound up getting him back after a long time of persuasion from my sister who had brought me and myself. Things were going alright, and I had thought Miss Cunningham was finally going to try and make up for her not being a mother to me by not standing up against me when George Bordelon, her ex-husband, had abused me. I also thought things were going to be better between Crystal Pitre, my daughter's mother, and me. I was wrong on both counts as you all will see as you keep reading.
Before I speak about Mrs. Cunningham, I need to first talk about my trying to compromise with Tiff on joint custody of our son. I tried first by inviting her to come to see Austin every other Saturday until Sunday evening until we could get something legal set up that would insure Austin would come back to me when her time with him was done and vice-a-versa. I did not include Theo because I felt that he was nothing to Austin legally, so there was no reason to include him. However, after some advice from Douglas William's, Tiff's legal father and a father in spirit to me, and Leonie Aucoin, my ex-uncle in-law, I finally decided to include Theo since he was involved with Tiff and therefore it was only right to do so based on what was explained to me. Then, Tiff had complained about her work not letting her off for those days, and that I should be flexible on when she could come. To this Mrs. Cunningham took up for her after reading the copies of emails I was sending her instead of just saving them for legal proof that I made attempts to compromise with Tiff as I originally had asked her too. Mrs. Cunningham told me when I had gone over to her home to see my daughter that Tiff did have a good point on the work thing despite the knowledge that Tiff always had some excuse to use to not see her son and that the work thing was just one that happened to make good sense to use. That's how I saw it anyway knowing Tiff's way of doing things having lived with her for almost two years whereas Mrs. Cunningham has never lived with her to know what I knew. This was just the beginning of Mrs. Cunningham's actions that proved she had not changed her ways of not standing up for me, but rather would stand up for her own worst enemy if only not have to stand up for me. I say this because I know Mrs. Cunningham loathes Tiff from her making excuses not to see her son when he was living with Crystal under Mrs. Cunningham's roof, and yet Mrs. Cunningham took up for Tiff instead of me and asked me to change my stand.
As I said, it was just the beginning. The next time was when I was working on a joint custody agreement that Tiff's grandma on Doug's side, Ellen Chickie Allemand a.k.a Maw-Maw Chickie, had once drawn up for Tiff and me. I had changed only a few things as far as the day Tiff's visitation would begin as well as adding some stipulations that would allow me to have the right as any father should to make sure his son was being left somewhere that was safe and sanitary as well as allowing Theo to use any discipline except for spanking on Austin. Tiff then complained that I should keep the holidays the same as they were, but I had never changed the holidays as they were originally written. However, because Tiff had once again picked an excuse that made good sense even though it was flawed because there was no mention of how it was never changed from how it always was and also no mention of how it wouldn't just be one person doing all the driving, but that both parent's were responsible for taking Austin to the other when it was the other parent's turn to have him, Mrs. Cunningham was quick to again take Tiff's side without getting all the correct info. This time she had sent me an email again telling me Tiff had a good point and that I should reconsider my stand. When I wrote her back telling her how it hurt me with her taking Tiff's side almost all the time and filling in that missing information, she responded by saying that she didn't know any of that before she said what she did. I politely responded that she should be sure to get all the facts before choosing sides, but I had no idea what the real reasons behind her doing just that were until I once again looked into my past and how she never did take my side on anything. She took George Bordelon's side when a police report of child abuse was made out complete with photos of bruises on my neck, arms, back, legs, and chest from his attack on me just the night before.She took my sister, Christine's, side whenever Christine would swear she had done the chores we were supposed to rotate every week doing even though it was me who had done them the week before. She took Tiff's side on everything, and she continues to take Crystal's side against me.
Now let's get to Crystal Pitre. I guess it is true you never know a person just by what they say online. I had fallen in love with her after meeting her online and all the good things she said about herself. It was so good that I was willing to look past our different interests and her being an indoor person whereas I was an outdoor person all because of the good things she said about herself which was true when I met her in person. There was just one thing I had wished I had know before getting involved with her. I wished I had know how much of a control freak she really was. Even before she was pregnant, she seemed like someone who just had to have control of everything. I was living with Doug, and she eventually moved in with us. He saw for himself and would confer with me his displeasure of how she was controlling me when it came to raising Austin and also not keeping up with her end of the bargain he had made with her for her to move in with us. She was supposed to watch Austin while I went to work, and keep the house clean. She would always complain about Doug's way of living and try to make him stop. Then, after we moved to her friend Katricia Autin a.k.a. Tish, she continued to control me with how I was to raise Austin. Then she found out she was pregnant. After a hurricane forced us to move into the house of a friend I was working with at the time, Ronnie Naquin, and his girlfriend at the time Tammy (now married to Ronnie), things got worse. She still controlled the raising of Austin, but then she began to control the way I spent my money, the job I just had to stay at even though I expressed my displeasure several times with how they were treating me and wanted to quit, she wouldn't even let me spend time with my friend Ronnie without bitching. The main thing, though, was when it came to naming our daughter after she had found out it was a girl. Before we had met, I had told her online that I had made a promise to my birth mother who had passed away in 2006 that my first baby girl should I have one would have Marie in her middle name in memory of my birth mother. When Crystal found out it was a girl, she said there would be no need to TRY and pick a name because she already knew what she wanted her name to be and that it would be Justice Faith. I told her again about my promise and suggested Faith Marie. Crystal said no, she wanted it to be Justice Faith because Justice was HER nickname in school and Faith was someone SHE knew. I said that she could have Justice Faith, but I wanted Marie as part of the middle name and suggested Justice Faith Marie, but she complained that it would be too long of a middle name and that she wanted Justice Faith. She ended by saying there would be no more discussion on that because Justice Faith was what it would be.
To make a long story short and cut to the chase, she controlled everything since we met and continues even until this day. My final straw was when she tried to control how I raised Justice when she had to go to work leaving me watching her since the girl was sick and could not go to daycare. Another thing Crystal had done from when Justice was just born was to run to her whenever she would scream. I advised her not to do that because Justice so used to that she would never be able to leave her sight without problems whenever Justice got older. My advice went ignored and Crystal now complains how she can't leave Justice's sight without Justice screaming. Of curse, she tries to blame me and my having to leave state due to unforeseen circumstances beyond my control by saying Justice only does that because she feels abandoned. How could she when Crystal was always running to her every time she would scream even after she had taken her from me when we broke up because of her controlling me too much and my having to back away to escape it. Back to what I want to talk about. Last week, I was over at Mrs. Cunningham's home because Justice was sick and Crystal had to go to work. I was going to stay from Monday night until Sunday evening since that weekend was going to be my weekend with my daughter anyway and it wouldn't have made since for Crystal to make too many trips back and forth. That Wednesday, Justice was not running fever or sick at all except for a very bad cough from screaming all night before because she couldn't see her mommy. Crystal refused to listen to my advice to send her to nursery since there seemed no reason for her to be kept home. Crystal then left to go to grab something for me to cook that night since she worked until 5 and wouldn't have time. Justice began screaming in her high chair the moment her mommy left. I then took a walk outside to show Justice screaming would not get her way with me. Crystal complained about this and Mrs. Cunningham took her side as usual.
I got so stressed that Theo and Tiff ( both of whom I am getting closer to once again) had to come get me and Austin out of there. I also let them take Austin with them to stay there. Now, I have decided to allow Tiff to be domicile parent instead of me because it would be more stable for him to live there due to my inability to handle too much stress and him possibly missing too much school with me whenever I got too stressed and had to give him to Tiff anyway. I actually think this way will work out much better for everyone.
To wrap this up, I sent an email to Mrs. Cunningham and Crystal trying to make peace with them and letting them know how I felt. No response as of yet, and I honestly don't think I will get one. I tried calling Crystal twice today. The first time I figured she may not have answered due to being busy with Justice, but the second time I left a voice message asking her to call me back. I have not heard back from her. I really think I know already that they have made their stand. It isn't with me, so I wash my hands of them both. I am sorry that my daughter will have to grow up without her father, but it was pretty much that way even with me there anyway. I'll let her know the truth when she grows up and seeks me out if she does. That's the end of my post for today. I'll be sure to write more as life goes on. As always, I want everyone to take care and be safe always.