Everyone has their own idea as to what is right, wrong, normal, and just plain weird. In a sense, we all live in our very own world defined by these ideas. I now issue an open invitation to get a look inside my mind, heart, and soul to really be able to know me. Welcome to my world. Enter at your own risk for there be some things you may be appalled by for I hold nothing to secret and always expose everything about my world that I live in.
In my world, no human or animal gets left behind. Strangers, friends, family, homeless, and even those who are different than me are all still people. I do not leave them go hungry and would not even leave them without a home if it were up to me. Birds, reptiles, felines, canines, wild, pets, strays are all still animals. I do not leave them go hungry and would not leave them without a home if it were up to me. For both people and animals alike, I do not abuse, disrespect, or neglect any.
In my world, I am queen over all but ruler of none. I am the queen of all because the world is my kingdom and I am female despite my outer appearance. I am ruler of none because all are free to do what they love and be what they feel they are as long as their actions do no harm to other people or animals.
In my world, I am judge and jury. I am both judge and jury that lives by the golden rule of, "An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth." What others do to someone else whatever it may be, I get down to the bottom of who is at fault and who is not. This makes me the jury that decides that in the end. I am then the judge that sentences the guilty party to whatever they did to the innocent.
In my world, free is truly free. There are no hidden costs or strings that come with the freedom I give except for the boundaries I set in that if it harms none, so let it be done. I give freely without expecting anything in return unless someone decides not to be satisfied with what I give them.
In my world, there is peace and love shown amongst all living things both human and nature alike. I do unto others as I would them to do unto me and expect all under me to do the same.
In my world it is okay for an adult to relive their childhood to whatever extent they feel suits them as long as they do no physical harm to others or themselves. Everyone has an inner child, and the age of the inner child will vary from one individual to the next.
In my world, everyone chooses their own label. They are all known and referred as by what they determine they are even if their outer appearance suggests otherwise. Not to do so is disrespect.
This is my world. Take care and be safe always everyone.
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Friday, March 25, 2011
March 25- Mind And Soul At War And Heart Torn In Between
I know I said in my previous entry that it was a good day to die, and in my mind, I still do wish I would not still be here. However, my soul has defied my mind and has once again risen from the ashes. I like to think of my mind, heart, and soul as being three separate bodies inside one vessel. My mind is constantly at war with my soul, and my heart is caught in the middle.
My mind tells my soul that enough is enough and that it is pointless to keep coming back alive only to be killed once more by the way people are in the world today. My soul continues to fight back because it wants so badly to be seen for the female it really is and will not give up until that day comes. My heart is like a rope that my mind and soul tug upon because half of it agrees that enough is enough and does not want to be shattered anymore, but the other half wants so badly to be loved and wanted by someone who will both accept and understand in order to be loved for just being itself and not for any other alternative motives.
What can I do? I guess since my soul is pretty much what makes me ME, I have no choice but to continue on rising up from the ashes until it decides to finally cease to exist. Take care and be safe always everyone.
My mind tells my soul that enough is enough and that it is pointless to keep coming back alive only to be killed once more by the way people are in the world today. My soul continues to fight back because it wants so badly to be seen for the female it really is and will not give up until that day comes. My heart is like a rope that my mind and soul tug upon because half of it agrees that enough is enough and does not want to be shattered anymore, but the other half wants so badly to be loved and wanted by someone who will both accept and understand in order to be loved for just being itself and not for any other alternative motives.
What can I do? I guess since my soul is pretty much what makes me ME, I have no choice but to continue on rising up from the ashes until it decides to finally cease to exist. Take care and be safe always everyone.
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
March 23- Today Is A Good Day To Die
Today is a good day to die and death to me would be such sweet surrender. I'm so tired of just surviving one attack after another. I've been beaten, broken, torn apart, burned, shot, crapped on, chewed up, spit out, and tossed to the curb like gutter trash. Each time, I rose up from the ashes and tried to climb back up to the top only to have the cycle begin again. There comes a point where even a phoenix gives up the ghost and ceases to exist. That time is upon me now. What's this life for? Why should I continue living when everyone or everything I ever love ends up with me losing them, having to give them up, or them turning their backs on me and putting me through yet another cycle of hell? There have been a few who have always cared and had my back, but not enough of them to show me that there is still good enough reason to continue fighting. What is the meaning of life? To me, it is pain, suffering, heartache, turmoil, physical abuse, neglect, mental abuse, verbal abuse, betrayal, lies, mother's that neglect their children or force the father out of their kids life by being too controlling, and even sexual abuse by a foster mother to her 3 year old foster child. I've had some good times, but more bad times than anyone else could have ever been able to handle. I'm amazed I've even survived this long when so many would have given up if they had gone through everything I have. Christians claim God does not give you more than you can handle, but I beg to differ. This so-called God of theirs sure has given me more than I can handle. Today is truly a good day to die. Farewell to all those who actually do give a damn whether I live or die and to all my readers.
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
March 16- One Main Question That Can Ask Many More
In today's society, there is so much that is kept from being made known to everyone living on this planet when it comes to gender and sexual orientation that one who really tries to discover that which is kept hidden is most often left with many questions. Millions and millions of questions begin to form in their minds, but only one question is used to ask this multitude of questions. Sure, there are a few of the questions that use other ones than this, but almost all the questions are "Why?"
My ex-uncle in-law and I had a huge disagreement once over the simple idea that two transwomen (females who are born in male bodies) could have a successful relationship. His point of view came from his watching a television channel called Logo. He told me, "There are no accounts of two transwomen ever having a successful relationship. I've never seen it on Logo, and that is the gayest channel there is. If they don't show it, then it's because it isn't possible." My point of view came more from a sense of gender not being in the same category of sexual orientation. I told him that I believed just as lesbians (females who are only attracted to other females) can co-exist as one being the male persona and the other being the female persona, so can two transwomen. With all of that said, my question is this, "Why are there no accounts of two transwomen coexisting in a relationship broadcasted on television?" I'm sure there have been many successful relationships of this type because I have seen online accounts of it, but yet the television media seems to want to keep this quiet for some reason. Again I ask, "Why?"
I went to the library two days ago and wanted to do some research on gender identity disorder (the diagnosis that many transgendered people are given in order for society to label our gender diversity as being a psychological problem more than a physical one). I couldn't find any books on my own, so the librarian looked in his computer for any books the library may have had dealing with the subject. He found a few pages in reference books that I would have had to make copies of since those kind of books are forbidden to be checked out. As I looked them over, he also had found five books that I could check out. Out of the five that I brought home, only one actually dealt with gender and not sexual orientation. Of course, it wasn't his fault. He had only looked up what I had asked for, and it was the search that produced these books. My question is, "Why is there so common a misconception among society that gender is connected with sexual orientation to where even when searching for books on gender diversity, one will mostly be directed to books of sexual orientation information?"
I am now reading the one book that has the actual information I sought after, and even in this book alone there are many questions brought up with the one common question. "Why are transwomen so much more hated than transmen (men born in the body of a woman)?", "Why is it that women are more allowed to publicly dress as men than for men to dress publicly as women?", "Why are there so many theories as to why we are what we are?", "Why can't society be more satisfied with gender diversity being a medical disease than to have it listed as a mental disease?", "Why are men and transmen thought only to be cruel and hateful in today's society especially when I know through experience that women can be just as cruel and hateful?", "Why are women and transwomen viewed as unable to be strong enough to protect themselves?", "Why, why, why?" I leave the last three open for any other questions an individual may have that asks the question of why.
As you can see, there truly is just one main question that can ask many more. In closing, I will leave all my readers with one question, "Why can't we all just learn to live as what we feel we are and let others do the same?" Take care and be safe always everyone.
My ex-uncle in-law and I had a huge disagreement once over the simple idea that two transwomen (females who are born in male bodies) could have a successful relationship. His point of view came from his watching a television channel called Logo. He told me, "There are no accounts of two transwomen ever having a successful relationship. I've never seen it on Logo, and that is the gayest channel there is. If they don't show it, then it's because it isn't possible." My point of view came more from a sense of gender not being in the same category of sexual orientation. I told him that I believed just as lesbians (females who are only attracted to other females) can co-exist as one being the male persona and the other being the female persona, so can two transwomen. With all of that said, my question is this, "Why are there no accounts of two transwomen coexisting in a relationship broadcasted on television?" I'm sure there have been many successful relationships of this type because I have seen online accounts of it, but yet the television media seems to want to keep this quiet for some reason. Again I ask, "Why?"
I went to the library two days ago and wanted to do some research on gender identity disorder (the diagnosis that many transgendered people are given in order for society to label our gender diversity as being a psychological problem more than a physical one). I couldn't find any books on my own, so the librarian looked in his computer for any books the library may have had dealing with the subject. He found a few pages in reference books that I would have had to make copies of since those kind of books are forbidden to be checked out. As I looked them over, he also had found five books that I could check out. Out of the five that I brought home, only one actually dealt with gender and not sexual orientation. Of course, it wasn't his fault. He had only looked up what I had asked for, and it was the search that produced these books. My question is, "Why is there so common a misconception among society that gender is connected with sexual orientation to where even when searching for books on gender diversity, one will mostly be directed to books of sexual orientation information?"
I am now reading the one book that has the actual information I sought after, and even in this book alone there are many questions brought up with the one common question. "Why are transwomen so much more hated than transmen (men born in the body of a woman)?", "Why is it that women are more allowed to publicly dress as men than for men to dress publicly as women?", "Why are there so many theories as to why we are what we are?", "Why can't society be more satisfied with gender diversity being a medical disease than to have it listed as a mental disease?", "Why are men and transmen thought only to be cruel and hateful in today's society especially when I know through experience that women can be just as cruel and hateful?", "Why are women and transwomen viewed as unable to be strong enough to protect themselves?", "Why, why, why?" I leave the last three open for any other questions an individual may have that asks the question of why.
As you can see, there truly is just one main question that can ask many more. In closing, I will leave all my readers with one question, "Why can't we all just learn to live as what we feel we are and let others do the same?" Take care and be safe always everyone.
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
March 15- The Evil Within
"You will never be able to defeat all evil for the evil lies within. To defeat it, you would have to defeat your own self." This was something that came to me in a dream two nights ago. I didn't understand what it meant right away until I pondered it over and over. Then, I began to look within myself and back to all my actions I have ever done in my life as well as the things done to me. There were many people that have truly hurt me, but there were also many times when I only perceived what someone was doing as harmful to me as well. Instead of asking for the person to better explain their actions so I would not take it the wrong way, I would just jump to the defensive stand and lash out at what I perceived as evil.
It was then that I realized the evil inside me was in the way I viewed things from how others have treated me before. I will never be able to defeat all evil due to the simple fact I, myself, am always looking for a reason to justify my own belief that everyone else is evil and out to get me. Evil will always be there as long as you continue to look for it. It's like it says in the bible, "Seek and ye shall find." Whatever you seek, you will find because you are inadvertently drawing it to you. Just because some or most people have actually treated you badly, it does not mean that everyone you come across will do the same. Open your hearts and minds to trust even those you may not know personally until that person truly gives you reason not to trust them.
Never assume that you cannot trust a person if you don't know them personally because then you may wonder what could have been different if you had trusted that person should things go wrong by not doing so. Also, it is wrong to judge someone you do not know personally just by what someone else had done to you. Doing so may wind up with you losing out on what could have been the best thing that ever happened to you.
Another evil that could be lurking within is your own faults should you refuse to look inside and notice them. It took me a very long time to know my own faults because of this very thing. I was so stubborn that I always brushed aside whatever anyone would say about me and pass it off as them only trying to bring me down. Most of them were, but there were still some who really cared and wanted to help me become a better person. The thing was that all those who were only trying to help me agreed on a lot of things more than the most who only wanted to bring me down. Those who only wanted to bring me down would say just random things about me that was only because it was not the same as them. The things that were agreed upon by many was my temper (quick at first, but less so as time went on), my inability to handle stress correctly (lashing out more quickly when stressed out than I would when not), putting myself down way too much, sometimes uncontrollable regressions in mental state, and my financial instability. Point is that when many people try to point out the same exact thing, you should really take notice because when people agree, there most definitely is a problem whether you want to admit or not. If many people are telling you that you have an issue with not keeping your house clean, for example, then even if one or two of them may just be blowing smoke just because of who they are, there is most definitely a problem that needs to be addressed. Don't try to justify you keeping your house dirty by talking about how it was when you were growing up, how dirty another person's house may be, or by spewing the faults of someone else to show how your faults are any less important than that certain other. Faults are faults and not one is greater or lesser than another. In the end, they all are equally wrong.
People suffer in this world not only because of outside influences trying to gain power over others, but also because of the very evil that lies within each of us as individuals. Take a look inside yourself and battle that evil within. Only then can you finally defeat ALL evil. Take care and be safe always everyone.
It was then that I realized the evil inside me was in the way I viewed things from how others have treated me before. I will never be able to defeat all evil due to the simple fact I, myself, am always looking for a reason to justify my own belief that everyone else is evil and out to get me. Evil will always be there as long as you continue to look for it. It's like it says in the bible, "Seek and ye shall find." Whatever you seek, you will find because you are inadvertently drawing it to you. Just because some or most people have actually treated you badly, it does not mean that everyone you come across will do the same. Open your hearts and minds to trust even those you may not know personally until that person truly gives you reason not to trust them.
Never assume that you cannot trust a person if you don't know them personally because then you may wonder what could have been different if you had trusted that person should things go wrong by not doing so. Also, it is wrong to judge someone you do not know personally just by what someone else had done to you. Doing so may wind up with you losing out on what could have been the best thing that ever happened to you.
Another evil that could be lurking within is your own faults should you refuse to look inside and notice them. It took me a very long time to know my own faults because of this very thing. I was so stubborn that I always brushed aside whatever anyone would say about me and pass it off as them only trying to bring me down. Most of them were, but there were still some who really cared and wanted to help me become a better person. The thing was that all those who were only trying to help me agreed on a lot of things more than the most who only wanted to bring me down. Those who only wanted to bring me down would say just random things about me that was only because it was not the same as them. The things that were agreed upon by many was my temper (quick at first, but less so as time went on), my inability to handle stress correctly (lashing out more quickly when stressed out than I would when not), putting myself down way too much, sometimes uncontrollable regressions in mental state, and my financial instability. Point is that when many people try to point out the same exact thing, you should really take notice because when people agree, there most definitely is a problem whether you want to admit or not. If many people are telling you that you have an issue with not keeping your house clean, for example, then even if one or two of them may just be blowing smoke just because of who they are, there is most definitely a problem that needs to be addressed. Don't try to justify you keeping your house dirty by talking about how it was when you were growing up, how dirty another person's house may be, or by spewing the faults of someone else to show how your faults are any less important than that certain other. Faults are faults and not one is greater or lesser than another. In the end, they all are equally wrong.
People suffer in this world not only because of outside influences trying to gain power over others, but also because of the very evil that lies within each of us as individuals. Take a look inside yourself and battle that evil within. Only then can you finally defeat ALL evil. Take care and be safe always everyone.
Saturday, March 12, 2011
March 12- The Road Map Of Life
"There is no better a road map of life than this: from knowledge comes wisdom, from wisdom comes strength, from strength comes courage, and from courage comes peace. Trust, faith, belief, hope, and love are just tools that help us along the way."- me
I started off with this philosophical quote I came up with today so that all my readers can see that not only am I good with giving advice along with writing poetry and novels, but I am also quite a philosopher when I put my mind to it. I sometimes come up with these quotes as I am pondering the many mysteries of life and love to share them once I get it in my mind. These quotes are not just random musings, but can help anyone who reads them to learn what I had to learn on my own. To be a good teacher, it is not just coming up with the quote, but knowing how to break it down and explain the meanings behind it. All the famous philosophers never really explained what they were meaning, but left it to the readers to figure it out. I, on the other hand, have come to learn how one thing can be interpreted many different ways as I have already explained many times before in my previous entries. It is for this reason that I now will break each section down and explain it to those who may be reading and wondering what I am trying to say. Let me begin.
1. There is no better a road map of life than this- Basically life is most often referred as a road we all travel every day. "Life is like a road that you travel on," was sung in Rascal Flatts' "Life is a Highway". I say that what follows is like a road map that can guide those who follow my map and keep them from getting lost in their search for peace.
2. from knowledge comes wisdom- As people, we are always the weakest when we don't have any knowledge or understanding of something. It is always best to begin your journey toward peace learning what needs to be learned and then you will get wisdom when you apply that knowledge to get you to the next checkpoint.
3. from wisdom comes strength- The next checkpoint is when you use your wisdom of what you learned and gain strength from that wisdom. A lot of others will say that strength is measured by muscles and body, but they are wrong. Strength comes from having wisdom to know when and how to fight as well as when and how not to. After strength is achieved through wisdom, you will see that getting to the half-way mark to peace is much easier than getting from the start to the first checkpoint.
4. from strength comes courage- This is the half-way mark on the road of life toward peace. It is also again one that many will try and say I am wrong on. Those who do will believe that it is courage that gives you strength, are the ones who do not know what true strength is. They believe not only what I mentioned above but also that strength is power. Through courage they gain this power over others, but they will never have peace because they will constantly have to be on guard for others like them who wish to challenge their power. This is why I say the strength I know to be strength brings courage. With courage, nothing can deter you from completing your journey.
5. from courage comes peace- Courage is not being afraid and knowing that you will not be moved from finding the peace you so long for. Once you have reached all the above points in life for the thing you were finding peace for, you will still have new things come up that will once again require you to repeat the steps because it is mainly the fear of the unknowing that causes our peace to be wavered until we regain the knowledge, wisdom, strength and courage to get past each individual new thing we do not understand.
6. Trust, faith, belief, hope, and love are just tools to help us along the way.- This basically lists in order of importance the different tools we can use in life to help us along our journey until our last day on Earth. Trust is most important because we all need to trust one another as well as ourselves in what we believe. Faith is built stronger upon the trust that is our foundation. Belief needs faith to settle on because without that faith our beliefs are dead and can be shaken down by anyone who believes differently or even by events in our lives we may find hard to overcome. Hope comes from our belief because everyone has rights to believe in anything that gives them hope to go on, and no one has the right to force anyone to change their belief. The final tool is love which can be gotten when we all come together and stop judging each other for our differences in skin color, outer appearance, gender, sexual preference, faith, actions, interests, and what we may feel like inside. I call trust, faith, belief, hope, and love each an individual tool to help us along the way, but as you can plainly see each prior tool is needed to create the next tool down from it, so they are all connected as one in a way.
I hope this blog has filled you with something to use in life. In parting, take care and be safe always everyone.
I started off with this philosophical quote I came up with today so that all my readers can see that not only am I good with giving advice along with writing poetry and novels, but I am also quite a philosopher when I put my mind to it. I sometimes come up with these quotes as I am pondering the many mysteries of life and love to share them once I get it in my mind. These quotes are not just random musings, but can help anyone who reads them to learn what I had to learn on my own. To be a good teacher, it is not just coming up with the quote, but knowing how to break it down and explain the meanings behind it. All the famous philosophers never really explained what they were meaning, but left it to the readers to figure it out. I, on the other hand, have come to learn how one thing can be interpreted many different ways as I have already explained many times before in my previous entries. It is for this reason that I now will break each section down and explain it to those who may be reading and wondering what I am trying to say. Let me begin.
1. There is no better a road map of life than this- Basically life is most often referred as a road we all travel every day. "Life is like a road that you travel on," was sung in Rascal Flatts' "Life is a Highway". I say that what follows is like a road map that can guide those who follow my map and keep them from getting lost in their search for peace.
2. from knowledge comes wisdom- As people, we are always the weakest when we don't have any knowledge or understanding of something. It is always best to begin your journey toward peace learning what needs to be learned and then you will get wisdom when you apply that knowledge to get you to the next checkpoint.
3. from wisdom comes strength- The next checkpoint is when you use your wisdom of what you learned and gain strength from that wisdom. A lot of others will say that strength is measured by muscles and body, but they are wrong. Strength comes from having wisdom to know when and how to fight as well as when and how not to. After strength is achieved through wisdom, you will see that getting to the half-way mark to peace is much easier than getting from the start to the first checkpoint.
4. from strength comes courage- This is the half-way mark on the road of life toward peace. It is also again one that many will try and say I am wrong on. Those who do will believe that it is courage that gives you strength, are the ones who do not know what true strength is. They believe not only what I mentioned above but also that strength is power. Through courage they gain this power over others, but they will never have peace because they will constantly have to be on guard for others like them who wish to challenge their power. This is why I say the strength I know to be strength brings courage. With courage, nothing can deter you from completing your journey.
5. from courage comes peace- Courage is not being afraid and knowing that you will not be moved from finding the peace you so long for. Once you have reached all the above points in life for the thing you were finding peace for, you will still have new things come up that will once again require you to repeat the steps because it is mainly the fear of the unknowing that causes our peace to be wavered until we regain the knowledge, wisdom, strength and courage to get past each individual new thing we do not understand.
6. Trust, faith, belief, hope, and love are just tools to help us along the way.- This basically lists in order of importance the different tools we can use in life to help us along our journey until our last day on Earth. Trust is most important because we all need to trust one another as well as ourselves in what we believe. Faith is built stronger upon the trust that is our foundation. Belief needs faith to settle on because without that faith our beliefs are dead and can be shaken down by anyone who believes differently or even by events in our lives we may find hard to overcome. Hope comes from our belief because everyone has rights to believe in anything that gives them hope to go on, and no one has the right to force anyone to change their belief. The final tool is love which can be gotten when we all come together and stop judging each other for our differences in skin color, outer appearance, gender, sexual preference, faith, actions, interests, and what we may feel like inside. I call trust, faith, belief, hope, and love each an individual tool to help us along the way, but as you can plainly see each prior tool is needed to create the next tool down from it, so they are all connected as one in a way.
I hope this blog has filled you with something to use in life. In parting, take care and be safe always everyone.
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
March 02- Three In One
Hello again to all my readers. Due to the Mardi Gras season being upon the state of Louisiana, I have been unable to post daily. In order to catch up on days that I missed, I have three pieces of advice to give in this one post.
My first piece of advice is on how it is always wrong to make a judgment based on only one person's side of a story. I would like to say a quote that I always live by. "Any judgment made on only half of a story is a tainted one." By that, I basically mean that if you were to hear one person's side of any story they tell about someone else and make a judgment without hearing the other person's side of that same story, you would only be hearing what that person believes in their mind to be true about the other. They may either leave out certain things or falsify certain pieces of information that would be crucial to making a good judgment that may ultimately make that person to be more in the wrong than what they appear. It's always best to hear both sides in order to be able to look at all what is said and then form your own opinion instead of falling victim to being manipulated into believing what the one person you hear from believes. The same goes for any story about anything else other than another person.
My second piece of advice that I have just recently experienced is to say exactly what you mean to say. Choose your words carefully because someone may take what you say to mean something other than what you actually were saying. For example, my daughter's mother had asked me once she found out she was pregnant how I felt about going to be a father for the second time. I had told her that I was both overjoyed and scared. I was overjoyed because it is so spectacular to play a part in bringing life into this world, but I was scared because I knew was not financial prepared for having another child and worried whether or not I would be able to support the new child as well as the son I already had. I told her exactly that to which I got this from her, "Well what are you saying? You want me to go and have an abortion?" Here's where my words were taken and misunderstood. I responded to her simply, "You suggested it and not me." Of course what I meant by that but did not say was that being she suggested it, she must have obviously had it on HER mind to go and do it, and I was not going to stop her. She took it to mean that I was suggesting she have an abortion and now claims I never wanted my daughter. In actuality, my thoughts on the matter of abortion is somewhere between Pro Life and Pro Choice. I am Pro Life because I don't believe that killing anyone is right and an unborn child is still a person and therefore an abortion is the same as killing a person. However, I am also Pro Choice because I feel that if a woman carrying an unborn child can actually go and kill that person inside of them and still rest easy knowing what they have done, I'm not going to stop them. The reason for that is because I'm not the one they have to answer to in the end. I'm not the one who will judge them for doing it. That is ultimately our Creator's job. The main point is still the same, however. You can see now how one simple phrase, "You suggested it and not me," was taken two different ways and could possibly be taken several other ways as well by many different people. Again, choose your words carefully. The best bet is to say things exactly as they are in your mind to say them so there can be no doubt as to what you mean to say.
My third and final piece of advice is to never jump to conclusions if you don't have all the information needed to form a good conclusion. This kind of ties in with both pieces of advice from before in that it is easy to jump to conclusions either way. If you only hear one side of a story, then you don't have the full information you need to form an unbiased conclusion, so therefore you have indeed jumped to a conclusion. Also, if you don't understand what a person is meaning by what they are saying, it would be better to ask them if they can fully explain what they are trying to get across. Otherwise, you jump to conclusions and begin to form in your own mind a belief of what they have said that may not be what they wanted to get across. Another way you can jump to a conclusion is when you walk in on people having a conversation whether in person or online and make a conclusion based only on the parts you heard or saw written and not everything that was actually being discussed. Instead, if you walk in on half of a conversation and it pertains to you, then you need to politely ask if someone can fill you in on what you missed so that you don't doing something you'd regret because you took offense to what you concluded by only hearing or seeing part of a conversation.
Well, that's it readers. I'll try my best to be back tomorrow with more advice for you all. Take care and be safe always.
My first piece of advice is on how it is always wrong to make a judgment based on only one person's side of a story. I would like to say a quote that I always live by. "Any judgment made on only half of a story is a tainted one." By that, I basically mean that if you were to hear one person's side of any story they tell about someone else and make a judgment without hearing the other person's side of that same story, you would only be hearing what that person believes in their mind to be true about the other. They may either leave out certain things or falsify certain pieces of information that would be crucial to making a good judgment that may ultimately make that person to be more in the wrong than what they appear. It's always best to hear both sides in order to be able to look at all what is said and then form your own opinion instead of falling victim to being manipulated into believing what the one person you hear from believes. The same goes for any story about anything else other than another person.
My second piece of advice that I have just recently experienced is to say exactly what you mean to say. Choose your words carefully because someone may take what you say to mean something other than what you actually were saying. For example, my daughter's mother had asked me once she found out she was pregnant how I felt about going to be a father for the second time. I had told her that I was both overjoyed and scared. I was overjoyed because it is so spectacular to play a part in bringing life into this world, but I was scared because I knew was not financial prepared for having another child and worried whether or not I would be able to support the new child as well as the son I already had. I told her exactly that to which I got this from her, "Well what are you saying? You want me to go and have an abortion?" Here's where my words were taken and misunderstood. I responded to her simply, "You suggested it and not me." Of course what I meant by that but did not say was that being she suggested it, she must have obviously had it on HER mind to go and do it, and I was not going to stop her. She took it to mean that I was suggesting she have an abortion and now claims I never wanted my daughter. In actuality, my thoughts on the matter of abortion is somewhere between Pro Life and Pro Choice. I am Pro Life because I don't believe that killing anyone is right and an unborn child is still a person and therefore an abortion is the same as killing a person. However, I am also Pro Choice because I feel that if a woman carrying an unborn child can actually go and kill that person inside of them and still rest easy knowing what they have done, I'm not going to stop them. The reason for that is because I'm not the one they have to answer to in the end. I'm not the one who will judge them for doing it. That is ultimately our Creator's job. The main point is still the same, however. You can see now how one simple phrase, "You suggested it and not me," was taken two different ways and could possibly be taken several other ways as well by many different people. Again, choose your words carefully. The best bet is to say things exactly as they are in your mind to say them so there can be no doubt as to what you mean to say.
My third and final piece of advice is to never jump to conclusions if you don't have all the information needed to form a good conclusion. This kind of ties in with both pieces of advice from before in that it is easy to jump to conclusions either way. If you only hear one side of a story, then you don't have the full information you need to form an unbiased conclusion, so therefore you have indeed jumped to a conclusion. Also, if you don't understand what a person is meaning by what they are saying, it would be better to ask them if they can fully explain what they are trying to get across. Otherwise, you jump to conclusions and begin to form in your own mind a belief of what they have said that may not be what they wanted to get across. Another way you can jump to a conclusion is when you walk in on people having a conversation whether in person or online and make a conclusion based only on the parts you heard or saw written and not everything that was actually being discussed. Instead, if you walk in on half of a conversation and it pertains to you, then you need to politely ask if someone can fill you in on what you missed so that you don't doing something you'd regret because you took offense to what you concluded by only hearing or seeing part of a conversation.
Well, that's it readers. I'll try my best to be back tomorrow with more advice for you all. Take care and be safe always.
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