March 02- Three In One

Hello again to all my readers. Due to the Mardi Gras season being upon the state of Louisiana, I have been unable to post daily. In order to catch up on days that I missed, I have three pieces of advice to give in this one post.
My first piece of advice is on how it is always wrong to make a judgment based on only one person's side of a story. I would like to say a quote that I always live by. "Any judgment made on only half of a story is a tainted one." By that, I basically mean that if you were to hear one person's side of any story they tell about someone else and make a judgment without hearing the other person's side of that same story, you would only be hearing what that person believes in their mind to be true about the other. They may either leave out certain things or falsify certain pieces of information that would be crucial to making a good judgment that may ultimately make that person to be more in the wrong than what they appear. It's always best to hear both sides in order to be able to look at all what is said and then form your own opinion instead of falling victim to being manipulated into believing what the one person you hear from believes. The same goes for any story about anything else other than another person.
My second piece of advice that I have just recently experienced is to say exactly what you mean to say. Choose your words carefully because someone may take what you say to mean something other than what you actually were saying. For example, my daughter's mother had asked me once she found out she was pregnant how I felt about going to be a father for the second time. I had told her that I was both overjoyed and scared. I was overjoyed because it is so spectacular to play a part in bringing life into this world, but I was scared because I knew was not financial prepared for having another child and worried whether or not I would be able to support the new child as well as the son I already had. I told her exactly that to which I got this from her, "Well what are you saying? You want me to go and have an abortion?" Here's where my words were taken and misunderstood. I responded to her simply, "You suggested it and not me." Of course what I meant by that but did not say was that being she suggested it, she must have obviously had it on HER mind to go and do it, and I was not going to stop her. She took it to mean that I was suggesting she have an abortion and now claims I never wanted my daughter. In actuality, my thoughts on the matter of abortion is somewhere between Pro Life and Pro Choice. I am Pro Life because I don't believe that killing anyone is right and an unborn child is still a person and therefore an abortion is the same as killing a person. However, I am also Pro Choice because I feel that if a woman carrying an unborn child can actually go and kill that person inside of them and still rest easy knowing what they have done, I'm not going to stop them. The reason for that is because I'm not the one they have to answer to in the end. I'm not the one who will judge them for doing it. That is ultimately our Creator's job. The main point is still the same, however. You can see now how one simple phrase, "You suggested it and not me," was taken two different ways and could possibly be taken several other ways as well by many different people. Again, choose your words carefully. The best bet is to say things exactly as they are in your mind to say them so there can be no doubt as to what you mean to say.
My third and final piece of advice is to never jump to conclusions if you don't have all the information needed to form a good conclusion. This kind of ties in with both pieces of advice from before in that it is easy to jump to conclusions either way. If you only hear one side of a story, then you don't have the full information you need to form an unbiased conclusion, so therefore you have indeed jumped to a conclusion. Also, if you don't understand what a person is meaning by what they are saying, it would be better to ask them if they can fully explain what they are trying to get across. Otherwise, you jump to conclusions and begin to form in your own mind a belief of what they have said that may not be what they wanted to get across. Another way you can jump to a conclusion is when you walk in on people having a conversation whether in person or online and make a conclusion based only on the parts you heard or saw written and not everything that was actually being discussed. Instead, if you walk in on half of a conversation and it pertains to you, then you need to politely ask if someone can fill you in on what you missed so that you don't doing something you'd regret because you took offense to what you concluded by only hearing or seeing part of a conversation.
Well, that's it readers. I'll try my best to be back tomorrow with more advice for you all. Take care and be safe always.