I feel the only way society will is if we rise up and fight to give the straight society a reason to fear us because it seems only through fear do we earn respect. My supposed to be father, George Bordelon. taught me that as a child. It was reinforced in jail when you had to fight to earn respect because then people would fear you. History even teaches us this. The white man made the Indians fear them, the black man made the white man fear them, and real women made the men fear them. They are all respected now and given whatever right they are entitled to for fear that they will rise up again and revolt if they are not. I say it is our turn. It is our turn to fight for our respect. If the law will not stand up for us, then we need to rise up together and take down that law. I will share now the comments that have truly angered me to rebellion. It's really her last comment that needs to be focused on, but I am posting the whole thing to show you all what lead up to that comment. Afterward, I will say a little more and then close.
I've got a very heated message to those people who think they can get away with telling another parent how to raise their child. STAY THE HELL OUT OF MY WAY! I'm sick and tired of people who whether they have their own kids or not try to tell someone else how to raise their kids. I'm pissed at those who think they have right to correct a parent when that parent is correcting their kid for not listening to them or other authority figures. I'm furious at those people who go behind a parent's back and let that parent's kid off of any punishment that parent set forth for their child. I'm outraged at those who would show favoritism by not telling their own kids who are now adults and have kids of their own the same thing they tell someone else who is doing the same exact thing as they are.
I could see if the parent is not providing the kids basic needs, not spending any time at all with their children, leaving bruises anywhere on the child from severely beating that child with a belt or anything else for whatever reason, leaving hand prints on a child's neck where they tried to choke the life out of that child, molesting their child in any kind of way, or attempting to kill their child by stepping on that child's chest with weight which could crush the rib cage right into the heart killing that child. Then, I could say there is reason to step in and get that child away from that parent. When I say not spending any time with that child, I mean that as long as you spend at least one or two hours two or three times a day, that should be good enough without someone coming along and saying that your child is not most important in your life. Not spending any time would be leaving a child in their room (or crib if they are that young) for the entire day while you do whatever you want to do. The only exception would be if the kid is older and has misbehaved and you have grounded them to their room. If none of these things I have listed is happening, then other people need to BACK OFF! Let the parent be the parent and stop trying to tell them how to be better! No one is perfect and never will be perfect, so stop trying to act like you are by telling someone else how to raise their kid!
You want to yell at someone or try to take someone's kids away? Stick to the a-holes that actually deserve to have their kids taken away or even thrown in jail for their entire life for molesting, abusing, or even attempting to murder their 16 year old child! In my opinion, those that do that (like George Bordelon and that woman who molested me when I was three) don't even deserve to live another day, but we are all unable to take the law into our own hands. Even those who let these people get away with it (like Cheryl Cunningham when she was married to George), deserve the same because they are just as guilty as the ones who did the act.
Dee Gisclair Klass are you referring to me because I could tell you what ever I feel when I see that you're not treating your child right and it's definitely my business when it's my great nephew you're mistreating. Giving you advise isn't telling you what to do. It's simply trying to help you and hoping you take that advise and put it to good use especially when it involves an innocent child that wants nothing but love and attention from his parent and deserves nothing but the best!
Kayden Renee PhoenixFirst, I want to point out that if I was referring to you, I would have your name written in this note. Second, if you think I am "mistreating" my son, then you obviously don't know what the fuck mistreating a child really is. You want to talk mistreating, then you need to take a long look at what George Bordelon did to me as I was growing up being almost killed by him at one time. THAT is mistreating a child, not just because I don't raise him the way you would raise him. Everyone has their own idea on how a child should be raised, but that doesn't mean that someone who is not raising them someone else's way is mistreating their child. Some just raise their children a lot more stricter than others. Next, you really need to know that there is a fine line between giving ADVICE and telling a parent what they can or cannot do to their child. Someone who does not live with you on a day to day basis trying to tell you that your son is not number one in your life is not giving advice. You don't know me or what is in my heart or mind nor do you see what I do with and for my son on a daily basis. Just because I am online whenever someone does call does not mean I am online all fucking day long and not spending time with my son. No one knows what I am doing all day. I get online when my son is sleeping whether it is for a nap or when in bed for the night. Other than that, I am with him doing things with him unless my dad offers to take him off my hands for a while. Just to make this clear, NOW I am referring to you. Back the fuck off bitch.- Dee Gisclair Klassyeah well just so you know...I have friends in HRS that would be more than happy to hear what I have to say and yes you do mistreat your child and no you can't use the excuse that you were supposedly mistreated because you're not a baby anymore and you're a grown man now that needs to learn responsibility and learn what a child really needs. Making a child sleep all day and not let him play with his toys because he doesn't know how isn't the way you treat a child. Ever thought that maybe the reason he doesn't know who to play with his toys is because you have never taught him how to. And yes is is my business because I am his great Aunt and I do care. You just need to show him he's loved by loving him and teaching him the right way. He's a beautiful child that's only looking to be loved and for attention. If you gave him as much attention as you do to trying to get your sex change or wearing a creepy diaper...he would be a very happy baby. So you see JW....you can call me a Bitch all you want because I know what I am and I'm not trying to change "ME" or who or what I am. And most of all I have raised 4 beautiful children and they are all 4 very happy children and all know that they are very much loved by me and that they could always count on me no matter what. I was also a Foster Parent and have gone through every parenting class there is out there during that time so yes dear...with that and having raised 4 children already I would think that qualifies me as an experienced parent and have every right in the world to step in when I see that my great nephew isn't being treated properly or getting the love and attention he so desperately needs. So you say "Back the fuck off bitch" and I say NEVER!!!! So you just deal with it faggit and get used to it because I will NEVER back off!!!
- Kayden Renee PhoenixThis will be my last response to you. Just because you have been to parenting classes and have four kids of your own does not make you an expert on how everyone has to raise their kids. It also does not make you an expert on what I am doing... for and with my son. Not living here and only seeing my son one time only when you came to pick up Junior does not make you an expert as to how I am treating my child. Giving advice means that you can tell someone how YOU would do in a certain situation. It is NOT telling that person what they must or must not do. As for what happened to me, there is no SUPPOSEDLY. It did happen to me. As for what I am into, it does not affect how I raise my child since I NEVER do it when he is around. I know what and who I am as well. So what if what I know myself to be makes me want to have a sex change. That's not because I don't know what I am, it's because I know what I am and I want to make my body to be what I know myself to be. One other thing on that subject, I do not put any of that before my son. I ALWAYS think of my son first. Why the fuck you think I have not gone to get my sex change yet? Why the fuck you think I don't wear diapers around him? I get what he needs first and I make sure he is given love and attention. The only way he does not get to play with his toys is when he is bad and has hit someone with them. It's not like he never gets to play with them. Finally as for your friends in HRS, I say go for it if you wish to try me. I swear when they discover that I am not mistreating my son like you say, I will turn around and sue your ass for everything you are worth. You say you won't ever back off, well I got news for you, if you don't want to get into a world of shit by making false accusations which has been proven false once already and when it is again will rain hell upon you when I sue you for making such accusations. Hate to burst your bubble, he may be your great nephew by blood, but that's where it ends. Once I was adopted and signed over, you and everyone else in the Gisclair or Lindsay family LOST that right to call us family in the eyes of the law. Thank you and fuck off!!!!!
Now, after reading all this, I also noticed to respond one thing to her. I do NOT make my child sleep all day. Sure I get him to take a nap in the afternoon around 1 P.M. or so for anywhere between an hour to two hours, but every child needs to have a nap every day because they will get cranky and definitely not listen to what you tell them because they are so tired that they will cry if you do not let them have their way until you do. When they get a little older like say 5 or 6, then I can see them not having to take a nap.
I also did not ask her how she expects someone who was not shown as a child how to love and care for a child as a parent should be able to do the same for their child. I believe Backstreet Boys said it best when they sang, "How can it be you're asking me to feel the things you never show?" in their song, Show Me The Meaning. It's true that society expects someone to know this shit, but they do not see how hard it is for someone who is not shown that same love, care, and attention to just automatically do it for their children. Honestly, I admit that I am doing an excellent job at doing it on my own despite what George Bordelon did to me as a child. Statistics show that most parents who were abused as children end abusing their children, but I have done a damn good job in not becoming part of that statistic. I am one of the few who were able to break the cycle.
I may be grown up on the outside, but I guess society fails to look into their child psychology books. If they did, they would see a part in there that says how an abused child or one that has gone through a great tragedy becomes mentally arrested in their minds at the age the abuse occurred thereby mentally freezing the child-like state of mind within the person even though the person's body grows up. I was adopted at the age of 6 going on 7 and the abuse didn't really start until age 10, but that's not where my mind was mentally arrested. Let's go a little further back to age 3 when I was molested by the foster mother I was with. That's not where my mind was mentally arrested either. No, my mind became mentally arrested at the age of 1 and a half when I witnessed my older brother of 2 and a half years old drowning in the bayou. Many people of society will say that a child that young cannot remember that, but again they are wrong. Child psychology teaches that from birth a child has the ability to remember things subconsciously that can cause the mind to become mentally arrested at whatever point caused the trauma and also can come out later in life during the rim sleep period where the subconscious mind becomes awake causing a person to relive the moment in a dream. Because of my child-like mind state, there are times that I do regress sometimes uncontrollably. Why do I dress in diapers and big baby clothes and wish to be treated like a baby? I do it sometimes because I do have a diaper fetish brought on by the molestation at age 3 which was another of my subconscious memories that came out in a dream. However, that is not the main nor the most important reason. The most important reason I do it is to help myself cope with my uncontrollable regressions. If that makes me a bad parent, then by all means take my child, but kill me also before you take him because if you take him, you might as well have killed me even if you didn't.
I do have a confession to make. That confession is that now with all the lies and the manipulation I had suffered by the hands of Crystal Pitre, Cheryl Cunningham, and now Dorothy Gisclair Klass, I have become so paranoid that I don't trust anyone anymore. I've begun questioning the motives of everyone in real life that is involved with my son now. Even his birth mother coming back into the picture with seemingly a sudden change of heart toward her son has brought some doubts that what if she has been recruited by Crystal and Cheryl to sweet talk me into giving my son back to her so then she will in turn give him back to Crystal. I don't even trust the people I am staying with now because I feel that to my face they say one thing, but behind my back they are secretly trying to get my son taken from me to give to Dorothy. My birth father swore he heard my "uncle" tell someone on the phone that he was going to call someone to get things taken care of over here. Yet my "uncle" swears that was never said. I have noticed that every time I got Tiff's dad's number, it would disappear. Again, this only plays to my paranoia. Not only that, but because I feel myself constantly watching over my shoulder to keep an eye out for who will try to take my son next, I don't think I can focus on my son as well as I should. However, I will try so damn hard not to crumble. I just don't know if I am strong enough to handle it for too long. If anyone is reading this, pray for me to have the strength to not only be a great dad despite all of this, but also pray that I can rise above all of this and be ten or twenty times better the transwoman I am now.
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